You may have had inklings lately that your marriage would never get back to the happy times you had in the beginning. Maybe you and your spouse simply fight far too often, or maybe you suspect that your spouse is ready to move on to another relationship. Perhaps you are the one who is thinking about moving on. Whatever the reason, you have had the idea of divorce on your mind more often lately.
Still, you have not fully decided whether it is the right step to take. You may have children to take into consideration or feel that maybe you and your spouse can work through your issues. If you have been married for decades, you may simply hate the idea of walking away from something you have invested so much time in.
Indecision can take its toll
While deciding to divorce is not a choice that you should take lightly, it is important not to let indecision become a prevailing factor over the matter. Not being able to decide can lead to numerous issues in your life including:
- Moodiness
- Lack of attention
- Frustration
- Sadness
- Impatience
- Anger
- Sleeping problems
- Stress eating or eating junk food
- Lack of motivation
Any of these issues could cause additional problems by affecting your work life, other relationships that you have with friends and family, and your overall health. In some cases, if you cannot truly decide whether to divorce and the indecision is taking a toll on you, you may need to reach out to a therapist or counselor for help.
Tips for making a decision
If you are not yet ready to seek professional help, you may want to try some ways to clear your mind and lessen the stress of the situation. These tips may help:
- Finding an activity to reduce the stress you currently feel
- Considering your physical and emotional safety
- Creating a backup plan to regain a sense of control
- Giving yourself stability
- Taking a step back and spending some time alone
It may also help you to gain information on what the divorce process in Tennessee entails. Better understanding what you may experience could help you decide if it is something you are ready to go through or help demystify some aspects of the process that may have had you feeling stressed or anxious. In order to obtain information that applies to your situation, you may want to speak with a family law attorney.